Before exercising your right to refuse service, you and your employees should always try to deescalate a rude customer situation. Keep these tips in mind:
- Don’t take it personally — even if a rude customer gets personal.
- Never mistake an unhappy customer for a rude customer.
- People say things online that they would never say in person.
- Practice empathizing statements like, “I understand your disappointment” and “I see why that’s inconvenient for you.”
- Maintain eye contact and keep your body language open.
- If your customer has legitimate reasons for complaining, offer a sincere apology.
- If appropriate, ask the customer how they would like you to resolve their problem.
Talk with your employees and co-owners about specific customer behaviors that will not be tolerated before you have to deal with an angry customer. In some situations, building bridges could help you create a lasting customer relationship.
Five examples of the right to refuse service
Not all unequal treatment violates federal or state laws. Some discrimination is legal and not subject to a civil rights lawsuit.
For example, it’s unlawful discrimination is if you refuse to seat or serve a group of diners based on their skin color or nation of origin. This is a civil rights violation.
However, it’s lawful discrimination, which is legal, if you run a black-tie restaurant and a party shows up in flip-flops and cargo shorts. You can refuse to serve them based on your business’ dress code.
As a business owner, you don’t have the legal right to refuse service based on religion, skin color, sex, physical conditions not within the customer’s control or nationality. If you do so, you are guilty of unlawful discrimination.
Discriminatory behavior could make you and your business vulnerable to a lawsuit. Before you refuse service to a rude customer, make sure your reasons are clear and can’t be misunderstood.
Some example of the right to refuse service to a customer include:
- A customer brings their dog to your restaurant, which is a violation of local health ordinances. Unless it’s a service dog protected under the Americans with Disabilities Act, you can refuse service legally.
- A customer threatens or verbally abuses you, your employee or other customers. You can ask them to leave.
- If your business is closed and a customer wants service, you have the right to refuse them.
- If a customer is causing a scene by yelling, swearing, or making a mess, or they’re clearly intoxicated, you have a right to refuse them.
- When a customer breaks the rules of your establishment, which are within local, state and federal statutes, you are under no obligation to serve them.
Which states have anti-discrimination laws?
States that protect everyone from discrimination | States that offer discrimination protections by municipality | States that ban cities and counties from passing nondiscrimination provisions |
California
Colorado
Connecticut
Delaware
District of Columbia
Hawaii
Illinois
Iowa
Maine
Maryland
Massachusetts
Minnesota
Nevada
New Hampshire
New Jersey
New Mexico
New York
Oregon
Rhode Island
Vermont
Virginia
Washington | Alabama
Alaska
Arizona
Florida
Georgia
Idaho
Indiana
Kansas
Kentucky
Louisiana
Michigan
Mississippi
Missouri
Montana
Nebraska
North Carolina
North Dakota
Ohio
Oklahoma
Pennsylvania
South Carolina
South Dakota
Texas
Utah
West Virginia
Wisconsin
Wyoming | Arkansas
Tennessee |